It’s hard to believe that I’m nearing the home stretch with this pregnancy. My pregnancy app says that I have a 100 days left till my ‘guess date’. That’s not a lot of time… yet, in some ways an eternity! Time is funny that way, isn’t it?! I’m not going to get hung up on an imaginary date.
My son will come when he is ready. I will not rush him. I will give him the space he needs to grow. His survival and safety are solely in my care and I will take good care of him by taking good care of myself. He is his own being and I will allow him to do things on his own, starting in the womb.
These are the things I keep telling myself… In spite of it all, a slight panic excitement has started creeping into my being. There is so much left to do… still. Yes, I know that babies don’t need a lot during those early days. But, I want to be ready, prepared, just in case he has other plans for us. is this what they call the nesting urge?
If you know me, then you know that I live off of lists… My notebook at work is full of lists of things to get done daily, weekly. I have sticky notes with song lists, grocery lists and things to buy lists etc. Here are some of the things on my to do list before baby Lelan makes his debut!
Get our finances in order– This one thing will give me the most peace during these last few months. We have enough savings and we know we can afford the baby, but we still haven’t worked out finer details. How are we going to handle new hospital bills? Should we start stockpiling diapers now? When do we sign up for insurance for the baby? When do we start a college fund? Can we afford a vacation next year? We just need to sit down with our accountant and hash this out.
Plan hospital visit– Every time we plan for this something gets in the way. One of the first things I want to do in February is check out both the nearest hospital and birthing center where my doctor has privileges. Once we have a comfort level on where we want to give birth, we can start to wrapping our heads around the idea of giving birth itself. 🙂
Finish setting up nursery– We have a room with a rug, curtains and a crib. This room also contains piles for dry cleaning, goodwill and other odds and ends. In other words, we have a room that is in chaos! Hardly the happy sanctuary I’ve imagined for my son. I have a small dresser that still needs painting and need to find a rocker/glider, crib sheets, and basically all those things that make a nursery, well a nursery. I just don’t want to wait until the last minute…
Finalize registry– I started working on my registry awhile back and have been going back and forth on the things I think we will need vs. want. The eternal conundrum! I’ve come to the realization that I really don’t want a lot of things for our son. Does a baby need a swing and a bouncer and a rocker? C’mon! I’ve been obsessed with reading baby blogs where parents talk about their must haves for their babies. I want to buy things that will grow with him. But, everyone has an opinion starting with how many bottles you need to what type of stroller you should buy. This whole experience feels like a shopping contest wherein if you aren’t registering for the right things, you’re somehow not serving you child’s needs properly. It’s mildly sickening. I really don’t mind buying gently used stuff from consignment stores (gasp!) and save a little extra cash. My baby’s not going to know or care one way or another.
Child-birthing classes– We were supposed to start a class last week, but my instructor cancelled due to lack of participants. Bummer. So, back to the drawing board and I think I have found an alternative… I will write a separate post on this at a later date. But, I’m really excited for this to start next month!
Sort and wash baby clothes– We have been fortunate in that so many friends and family have already donated boxes of clothes for Lelan. I just need to sort through them and figure out what I need first. This really belongs with setting up nursery, but since I hate doing laundry with a passion, it is another line item on this list.
Find pediatrician– I don’t even know where to start with this. I’m going to ask around for recommendations.
Write out birthing plan– My sister asked me if I had a birthing plan and yes, I have one… in my head. To be honest, I’m not ready to write my birthing plan yet. There are so many variables and I’m still coming to terms with them.
Finalize work transition plan– My boss and I have talked about this a little but there is still a lot that’s left unsaid. My hope is to work until I go into labor, but who knows what will happen?! I suspect this will all come together towards the end of my pregnancy.
Pack hospital bags– Seriously, when does one start packing for labor & delivery? What items are a must? I haven’t given this any thought, whatsoever…
Organizing the house– While this is an ongoing project, we need to clear some space for baby’s things in various rooms…. Like the kitchen, closet and bathrooms etc.
Phew! I feel like I’m forgetting something important. Nothing on this list is impossible, just a bunch of little things that need planning and preparation. And, writing them down is in itself the first step in managing the chaos. How we choose to perceive our world has a direct effect on how the world around us presents itself. If you think life is hard… then you will probably be sore from the up hill climb. But, if you shift your perception ever so slightly towards the center and take everything as it comes, then nothing can be sweeter or more enjoyable.
For any of the mommies out there with similar lists, I will leave you with a parting thought…
If any of you have any suggestions on my to do’s, please feel free to share… I love hearing from you!